Wait, it's been 3 years?!

After realizing that its finally the month of April that means a lot things are going to be happening in our schedule's.

For Kelly it will be work, skid steer and finding time to do his church calling, family time and who knows what else. He always wishes there was more hours in the day.

For Me it will be spent going to dance competitions, attempting to spring cleaning (wink wink), coming up with some rad birthday gifts for Kelly, enjoying my birthday month & week.

But the coolest part about this April is that we have been married for 3 years!

At first that seems like such a small number but at the same time it feels like we have been married forever. Like we are veterans or something?!

Okay, I will be the first to reassure you that we still have days where we have no clue what we are doing. Mainly because in the past four months our life has changed drastically and it just keeps changing weather or not we are keeping up with it all!

There are days where I am cranky and hard to handle. There are days where Kelly is cranky and hard to handle. But luckily there are more days that we are content, happy & positive.

Sometimes I know I get hung up on the negatives of life. Like:
"Why does Kelly have to work so much?!"
"Can he just spend time at home for one night and not be outside?!"
"When is he going to do that long list of things for me?!"
"Stop having so much stinking overtime work!"
"When will he get that I just want to go on a date!"



At those moments I have found (so has Kelly) that really it isn't about those individual issues as much as its about me either needing a small break from being a mom or that I am 1,000,000,000% HANGRY! We both admit that sometimes we use the 'cranky' title too much because we are tired and wearing thin.

But over the past three years I have learned somethings not only about Kelly but more about myself. I have learned that I really don't care to be a homemaker. I really don't love to spend the whole day cleaning unless there is some incentive of a treat afterwards. (I bribe myself!) I have learned that I shouldn't compare myself to others and how they look like the perfect wife. I don't cook dinner every night, I don't make a lunch for Kelly every day and I surely never keep up on laundry, dishes or mopping the kitchen.. but I would rather have a type of home that is filled with love, laughs and lots of fun.

There is one thing I learned over the last 3 years and that is LOVE. I learned that even if the dishes get pilled up till they are stacked on the counter that Kelly still loves me. I learned that if the floors are dirty and the whole house could use a good maid to clean it up that Kelly still loves me. I learned that even when I am HANGRY that Kelly still loves me. He loves me on the days that I don't even put any makeup on. He loves me when I am completely done with the day. He loves me enough to let me talk about dance things all night long. He loves me enough that the "perfect" home doesn't have to exist. Because well I would say we have a "perfect" home. Its not built on being a home that is ready for a Pinterest photo shoot or a Home & Gardens Magazine. But its perfect because there is LOVE.

If there is one thing that I would love for Kelly & Charli to know. Is that there is nothing that makes my heart happier than when you two are bonding. Weather its you both falling asleep in the nursery while dad feeds you before bed. Or when you are just staring at each other in silence. I am so grateful to have a husband who not only takes such extreme care of me but will take even better care of our daughter. Charli you will be the most spoiled girl because of your dad. I can't promise that he will buy you everything you ever want but he will give you the best example in the world and that is someone who holds the priesthood and will be the best protector in your life. I also am positive he will be your first love. Everything he is will be something I will pray that you will find when one day you get married. 

I am so grateful for the marriage that I get to enjoy and for the companionship that I get to have for eternity. 

"Family is the center of life & is the key to eternal happiness!"

-L. Tom Perry